Sheba tells us how she tries to not get pregnant regardless of being sexually energetic and having a number of companions.
For many ladies, the journey to discovering the best contraceptive isn’t a straightforward one.
Today is World Contraceptive Day. So, we spoke to Sheba, who shared her expertise with choosing the proper contraceptive.
“When I started having sex, one surprising thing was how men did not like using condoms, even with the fear of HIV. One guy once told me, “Does it look like I have HIV?” It jogged my memory of that music I heard once I was rising up: “HIV no dey show for face.” There’s plenty of stigma related to being HIV-positive, and one in all them is that individuals look sickly, however an HIV-positive individual can look fats and strong. Another excuse I heard from males who did wish to use condoms was “I’ve been tested before” or that intercourse is best uncooked. I strive to not fall for these issues, however I’ve fallen a couple of times.”
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“But even when men use condoms, I still take the pill—call it two-factor authentication—in case the condom bursts or something. The responsibility of pregnancy and childcare will fall on me not him and if he doesn’t like me enough for a relationship, having his child will be a mistake. I knew that I didn’t want to get pregnant out of wedlock and that I didn’t want to have to have an abortion, so I knew I couldn’t be reckless with sex. The problem was finding the right contraceptive. I didn’t want an IUD. I heard stories about how painful it is to insert, how it hurts even after insertion, and how it causes crazy mood swings. I didn’t want to take the birth control pill every day; it leads to water weight, and I didn’t want to look bloated. I soon realized that every contraceptive method has its disadvantages and advantages. The only safe way not to get pregnant is not to have sex.”
“I usually use the morning-after pill after sex because it’s quite effective, though it ruins my menstrual circle. When I use it, my period is a week late or even more and that makes me worried that I have gotten pregnant.”
“Another thing that happens when I use the pill is that there is a lot of blood, and my flow is usually so heavy that I have to change my pad three times a day. There are times when I have a period twice a month.”
“For me, the positives of using the morning pill are that it reduces menstrual cramps and doesn’t mess with my hormones or body by making me gain weight.”
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“I have heard about women who used the pill and still got pregnant, so I am still scared whenever I have unprotected sex and use the morning-after pill. Contraceptives are not entirely foolproof; I just take the gamble and hope it pays off, though it won’t protect me from sexually transmitted infections.”